Updated: Mar 15, 2021
This is a juicy one guys. As we know the spiritual realm is a whole lot more knowing and powerful than ours, they have the capacity for foresight and seeing things at a deeper level than we do. So they are able to see, change and help our future path.
If you live in the real world, you would of heard the word "narcissist" from time to time. It is a word that has recently come to light and now its thrown around left, right, and centre. You may know a narcissist, you may be one. All we do know is that it is normally used by someone as an insult who isn't getting their own way. What it often translates to is: "you are not doing what i want you to do and that is not what I want, so you MUST be a narcissist".
Now don't get me wrong, there are some proper narcissists out their, some who are inflicting a lot of mental and emotional damage on people. But... what is a narcissist?
Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.
As you can see by the definition above, it is actually a diagnosis. People are suffering from this and can be helped.
Now one thing that really pisses me off as a psychologist, is people not getting the desired result from a person and then being upset with them, and labelling them a narcissist. In a professionals eyes, it just makes them look really spoilt and stupid.
So how do you spot a narcissist?
Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:
Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
Have a sense of entitlement.
Expect to be recognised as superior even without achievements that warrant it.
Exaggerate achievements and talents.
Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.
Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people.
Monopolise conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior.
Expect special favours and unquestioning compliance with their expectations.
Take advantage of others to get what they want.
Have an inability or unwillingness to recognise the needs and feelings of others.
Be envious of others and believe others envy them.
Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, and pretentious.
Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office.
At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:
Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment.
Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted.
React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior.
Have difficulty regulating emotions and behaviour.
Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change.
Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection.
Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation.
Now you may be sat here reading this and someone comes to mind or you may be relating this to yourself. Do not worry! This word is just a word, and in short, it just means that they are an arsehole.
Being honest, laying the cards on the table... a narcissist is the medical diagnosis for being a prick. Now we know lots of pricks in the world, we deal with them all the time. The beauty of it is that the spirits and universe are fully aware that we live in a world where there is a prick on every street and they are here to help us deal with them.
The first thing that spirits have told me when i have tuned in to ask how to deal with a particular prick i am dealing with that day and the gem of advice that they told me, is to treat everything that say as a lie.
No, you are not an arsehole for not doing as they want, No, you are not a horrible person for not complying with their bullshit. You are you, you live for you and you are entitled to feel and react in anyway you want to. You should never feel guilty for not sacrificing your wellbeing or happiness to make the narcissist happy.
Here are 3 guarenteed ways to help you deal with a narcissist. Disclaimer alert, this will not cure the arsehole, nor will it stop anyone from being a narcissist. These are some go-to ways to help the victims of narcissists not end up in a complete mental, and emotion wreck.
I cant stress how useful this is in day-to-day life anyway. Grounding should be used by everyone on a daily basis, its a fantastic way to stop stress and anxiety and bring you into the here and now. How grounding works? Well we all have 5 basic senses: Smell, Touch, Sight, Hearing and Taste. There are many ways to ground yourself, but i have found this is the quickest and most effective way of grounding. Its as easy as taking 1 minute out of your day to focus on 5 things that you are experiencing with each sense.
5 things that are interesting to see.
5 things you can hear in the distance.
5 things you can taste in your mouth.
5 things that you can feel on your skin.
5 things you can smell.
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